Snuggle Swap?

There is a meme going around facebook right now that seems to be supportive of new families; however,  it has raised a few concerns for us.
In this meme, the caption first reminds moms that "babies bring visitors so use them wisely.” Then the image says: 
"We have a new baby and we know you would like to hold our baby. Snuggle time will be offered on a first come, first to serve basis. Ideas to get to the front of the line:

• Bring a meal
• Do the dishes
• Fold the laundry
• Take out the trash
• Vacuum
• Run an errand
• Ask for a task

Enjoy the snuggles!”

Many have liked and shared this meme, probably appreciating the often forgotten concept that visitors to the home of a newly postpartum family should expect to help, not to simply hold the baby and be entertained while the mother - who has just gone through the arduous process of birthing a baby - cooks, cleans, and spends her already diminished energy being social. This is a great thing to point out to newly expanded families and their guests. However, the idea of visitors doing some sort of service and being "paid" in time holding the new baby is quite troubling. 

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